Category: Let's talk
Hello zoners,
I am vary worried about a child that I have babysat since she was five month's old. First alittle backround info. Her dad is a Mr. Mom, meening that his job is to watch the child wile her mother gos off to work. Daddie does nothing to make her an intelagent well brought up child, his idea of childcare is to plop her in frunt of the TV and go off and do his own thing in the basement, leving her alone. She has had no interaction with other children other then a 4 month stint in a 4 year old preschool this year. Her father has just removed her from the School for reson's unnone. we are now talking about a 4 year old that can not talk clearly, is not poddie trained, has strange behavyers such as bighting her clothes and people, lifting up her shirt or the shirt of another person and saying things such as sexxy and or dancing around like that, and seems to keep a distance from boath her parents. When she was a small baby they would not let me change her diapers. After the first year or so of me babysitting her, they had finished moving out of there old house, they no longer seem to want anyone to watch her, and get vary nervice if you try to talk to her or help her with something. Her dad and mine are good friends witch is how I have been keeping in contact with her. Even though I haven't babysat her in a year or more, she still remembers me and clings to me like she's scared of me leaving her.
Now to get to the thing I am really conserned about. Some things that she does are consistent of sexual abuce in children. I am praying that it isn't, but I would like to no what you guys think. Also do you no of any profeshinals that I could talk to about my conserns besides child welfare? Any help or insite would be much appreasheated. There is a life at stake, and I don't want to see her be hert. If this is in fact the kace, I'll go and cut her dad's dick off before you can say nife!
i would report this to your local children's protection services. it doesn't sound good to me. do it quickly, the quicker you do it, the better.
I have to agree with Martin here. Even if the sexual abuse isn't happening there is quite a bit that needs at least investigating, even if it's just to help the family. With the possible sexual abuse as well it's definitely better safe than sorry. CPS aren't all about going in like an invading army guns a-blazing, they can also work with the family to improve things. I believe you can also call anonymously should you wish to do so. Either way my thoughts will be with the child. Here's wishing for a speedy and positive outcome.
Cheers,
Simon
It's disgusting and so disappointing to hear things like this. I agree with the prior posters.
Definitely report this to CPS. It isn't exactly something the parents would be forthcoming about, so it isn't as though sharing your concerns with them would be of much use. And, you can ask to have your identity kept anonomous, I believe, so you wouldn't have to worry about any repercussions where the family is concerned. I hope you do this soon. Let us know how it goes.
I had to cal DCFS on someone who I suspected of abusing her children. I called anonymously and the first time, they found nothing. The second time, they took the kids away and as far as we know, they haven't gotten back the kids. It has been over two years since I called. So, trust your instinct, do what's right for the baby and call right away.
I agree with everyone here. Even if there is no sexual abuse going on, she is displaying very odd behavior that willhave to be addressed at some point. From what you've written, she sounds very undeveloped mentally. It seems as though the lack of interaction with her parents and other children has a lot to do with it.
i agree with all everyine who just posted
I also agree. But would like to add, If you find out that they are abusing the child, just shoot them both! If you can't, hire someone.
Yes, I tend to agree with the previous posters. There seems to be some definat signs of sexual abuse. this child seems to know far more regarding sex than she should at such a tender age.
I heard about an incident where a little kid who was in preschool knew what the reproductive organs were called, and everything like that, and the teacher called social services. the people at social services found out that the kid's mom was a nurse, and saw nothing wrong with the child knowing about that kind of thing. i mean, how comfortable would you feel about telling their four-year-old child where babies come from if you were a nurse? kind of off-subject, but it could be related in a way ... Idk, it's three in the morning, and i'm probably not making much sense. lol
As a person who was abused for twelve years before child protection services got to me, I can say... ... do something as soon as possible! Yes, you can report anonymously, and when CPS gets involved, they do not notify the family of who reported it. So yeah, report it as soon as you can, and they will be able to take over the investigation from there. On behalf of abuse survivors, thank you for expressing concern and your willingness to do something to help this child. Something shady is going on here, even if it's not sexual abuse.
I agree with the replies here. If you do it over the phone you can remain annonymous and I think you should definitely talk to CPS about your concerns.
Well, in my case, when I reported abuse, the mother knew it was me. Probably just used guesswork, but still... I do wonder if somebody told on me. Wouldn't have cared anyway, the bitch didn't deserve her kids anyway.
in missouri, you can no longer report abuse anonymously it was passed in 2005. i do not know how many other states are going down this road, but its a sad one. btw, just call the preschool, they can report it. trust me they would.
why was that law passed in Missouri? That's awful! Speaking from experience...perpetrators of abuse won't hesitate to exact revenge on those who got them in trouble. That's why the abuse always got worse after I talked to child protection services about what was going on with me. When I finally got "smart" and stopped talking, thinking the beatings would lessen, I was back in the abuser's complete control. I can see that law resulting in some (though hopefully less intense) reactions. Perps are really screwed up people, and it's a victory when their diseased normality isn't passed on to the abuse survivors.